Guest blog written by:
Professional Dating Site Reviewer
What’s the very first thing you look at when you’re browsing through online dating matches? Their hobbies? Their profession? Nope. If we’re all being honest, the first thing that we always look at is someone’s pictures. We have to know if they’re a cutie with a booty or someone who scares little children and incites panic with only a glare.
While this may seem shallow, it’s the reality of the world we live in and our nature as humans. We can get over dating someone who likes knitting or works a dirty job, but we’d be hard-pressed to be able to date someone who we weren’t attracted to. This is why no matter how “not shallow” we are, we always look at the photos first.
You probably knew that already, but here’s what you may not have realized. If you’re doing this and we’re doing this, and all of our readers are doing this, then it means that everyone who is looking at your profile is doing this too. This means that your online dating photos are your first and possibly only chance to make a good impression on a potential match.
So, are your online dating photos up to par? Well, it only takes a few minutes of poking around any dating site to see that everyone (including you) needs some help. As a professional at writing online dating site reviews, I spend hours every day on multiple sites and…how do I put this gently…you should read this post at least twice.
To help you increase your online dating success, I’ve compiled the top five mistakes that I see with online dating photos. If you’re committing one of these cardinal sins, you’re hurting your chances of finding that special someone.
Your Photographer Should be Fired
If your dating photos look like they were taken with a potato for a camera, you’ve got issues. The first word that pops into a new matches head should not be “blurry.” When your photos are clear, it accomplishes a few things. First, it allows matches to get a better idea of what you look like. This means they’ll be able to make a more accurate judgement of whether they are attracted to you or not. If you’re blurring your photos on purpose to hide what you look like, you’re just setting yourself up for an awkward (and probably short) first date. We’ll leave that issue for another discussion, though.
Second, clear photos instill trust. If your pictures look like they’re hiding something, your potential match is going to think that you’re hiding something too. Invest the time to take a clear photo or get the help of a professional. Hint Hint.
You’re Not Telling Anything About You
Online dating profiles might seem like they’re packed full of information at first glance, but in reality, they’re relatively short. You have to convey who you are, how you operate, and what’s important to you in a relatively short amount of space. If you aren’t using your online dating photos to do this for you,
you’re making a mistake.
Do you like rock climbing? Show people with a photo! Like being outside? Don’t make all of your pictures be of you in front of a white wall in your living room. You don’t have to go crazy with this tip, but you should be aware of it. Plenty of your pictures can be “boring” but make sure that at least a few of them show that you’re more than just a face and a white wall.
You’re Compromising Your Security
If there is one blunder on this list that baffles me (and scares me) the most, it’s this one. You need to be aware of what you are showing in your pictures as well as what is in the background. I wish I were making this next story up, but it’s true. Over the years, I’ve been an avid online dater, and this is the single story that sticks out the most.
I had to message a girl one day because she had taken a picture of herself at work in front of her computer. Harmless, right? Well, she apparently did not realize that she had left her log-in information and her password for her work files on a sticky note attached to her computer where anyone looking at her profile could see them clear as day.
You HAVE to take some time and make sure that you aren’t releasing sensitive information in your photos. Make sure you don’t have phone numbers, the address on your house, street signs that show where you live, computer passwords, your work badge/ID, or anything else that has sensitive information that you don’t want everyone on the internet to see. Nurses…you’re the biggest culprits with your hospital ID badges or your branded scrubs. If you’re trying to get creepy guys or gals to show up at your work uninvited, that’s a great first step.
You’re not Bringing Your A-Game
How much effort do you put into taking pictures when you’re selling your car? You probably spend hours getting the car cleaned, vacuumed, and into the perfect lighting for its photo shoot. How much time and effort did you spend to take your online dating photos? Just grabbed a few from Facebook? Snapped a quick selfie with your webcam?
Finding someone to spend the rest of your life with should be a lot more important than how quickly you sell your car. You should be feeling pretty silly now if you’re not bringing your A-Game to the table with your pictures. Online dating is a straightforward process. The more effort you put in, the more you should hope to get in return. If you bring your C-Game, expect mediocre results. If you bring your A-Game, you can expect to get what you’re looking for.
You’re Not Putting in Any Effort
Does this mistake seem eerily similar to the last one? That’s because it is. It’s THAT important that we’re going to hammer it home again. Not only do you need to bring your best with your photos, but you need to put in effort continually. Been a few months since you started online dating? Take the time to take some new photos. Not getting the results you want? It’s time to add some new photos.
When you don’t put in any effort, it not only won’t pique the interest of any matches, but it’s going to convey that you’re lazy and you really aren’t serious about the process. If you want people to think you’re flaky regardless of whether you are or not, disregard this tip.
Putting It All Together
Remember, online dating is supposed to be fun and not feel like a chore. That being said, doing things the right way will help to ensure you have a much better experience. It’s kind of like Halloween. It’s a night that’s supposed to be all fun and no work. However, the more work that you put into your costume before the night, the bigger splash you’re going to make and the more fun you’re going to have. There’s nothing wrong with approaching fun things with a degree of effort and seriousness.
If you’re not sure if you’re doing things the right way, I’m going to make a suggestion. Get in touch with the awesome people here at Brand You Max and let them help. If we were talking about something silly like finding a new rug for your bathroom, I would say just wing it. But we’re talking about finding someone who may have a lasting impact on the rest of your life. If that’s not worth a little bit of seriousness and some help from an expert, we have different priorities.