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Nowadays we’re more and more image obsessed. There is a recipe for everything, for beauty for success, for wealth, for love and our interconnected world is ready to teach us how to obtain just about everything. The first step, of course is the fantasy.  We’re sold more fantasy than we can ever handle. And that translates into our relationships as well.

Are fantasies dangerous when it comes to relationships? Or they enhance our love lives? How much is too much and where do we draw the line? is there a one size fits all, or do we all have different needs where fantasies are concerned? And what’s normal, or what’s the new normal? In my blog, as below, I’m trying to find some answers to the questions we all struggle with.  Read more here…..

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It was the summer of 2002 when a friend of mine introduced me to Lavalife, a Canadian dating website. Thus my journey into the world of online dating began. It did stop shortly after though, as I started dating someone I had met at one of the workshops I was attending at the time.

Needless to say, in 2002 dating sites weren’t widely discussed, they were more of a hush hush kinda subject. We’ve come a long way since. So, what is the success rate of online dating these days?

 

1.The Success Rate of Online Dating via Traditional Dating Sites

Whether it’s Match.com, Lovestruck or E-Harmony, OKCupid, or PlentyOfFish, traditional dating sites have one thing in common, a huge database. Thus they can make us believe that we have “infinite” matches. But when taking a closer look, we realize that maybe on the surface, we have a lot in common with a lot of people, however, since we’re not putting together a football team, the weeding process can be long and painful. We’re bound to communicate with loads of people, go on many dates and start all over again. However, whether due to luck or hard work, an increasing number of people find their partner on these sites. All hope is not lost.

 

2.The Success Rate of Online Dating via Niche Dating Sites

Niche dating sites are very much in. Some are independent, like Star Trek Dating, others are branches of traditional sites, like LavalifePrime (for the over 45 year old). They are a brilliant idea of grouping people based on main interests, orientation and preferences. Suddenly the pool is much smaller. Yet, the chances of finding somebody you match with are much greater.

 

3.The Success Rate of Online Dating via Dating Apps

Dating apps are all the rage nowadays and as far as going on dates goes, they’re probably leading. Predominantly free, these apps do have their drawbacks, though. It has been recently reported that 42% of men on Tinder are already in a relationship. New dating app Hinge, thus decided on a bold move. They publish all users relationship status. Since Hinge is linked to the user’s Facebook profile, whatever status they show on there will appear on the new version of Hinge. Apparently on hearing the news, over 400 men deleted their profiles.

 

Dating apps are no stranger to going niche either. There is one for men who have beards and those who like to stroke them. There is one for “cheeky” people, called Cheeky Boo. Well, not for actually cheeky ones as such. It’s a clever app that can set up people on a date in an instant if they’re both free.
The choices are endless. The commitment of the people using these apps, less so.

 

4.The Success Rate of Online Dating via Social Media

Since connecting with friends of friends not only gives people access to some accurate background information, thus elevating trust, but also guarantees some sort of common interests as well, dating social media connections seems like a good idea. No wonder the dating app Hinge built it’s whole concept on these connections. Although these circles are much smaller than the selection of potential matches offered by a traditional dating site, in some ways it’s like being back at school. It’s just virtual.

 

5.The Success Rate of Online Dating via Social Events

Secret singles nights or Thames River Cruises, these events are for the socially bold. However, they do work. Kudos to dating sites bringing in the trend, which now has been taken over by Meetup as well.
Just try not to bump into an ex. It could be awkward.

 

6. What Else Is Out There to Help Our Quest For Love?

Matchmakers. Yes, for all of you who’d like to have the load taken off your shoulders, there are some fantastic services run by talented and dedicated people. Matchmaking is an art and requires the finest intuition and skill. It also requires knowledge. One of the best matchmakers in town is Caroline Brealey of Mutual Attraction.  And, just as there is an ever growing need for long lasting relationships, there is a need for more good matchmakers as well. That’s why, it should not come as a surprise that Caroline, after writing her book “Matchmaking – Create Your Own Business” is now running a special course called The Matchmaker Academy.

With such wonderful services, rest assured our love life is in good hands. Now it’s up to us to contribute our share, with dedication and keeping an open mind. Life and love are an intriguing journey here on Earth.

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