the price of online dating

 

Guest blog written by:

Jason Lee

Professional Dating Site Reviewer

Our Best Online Dating Sites

 

What’s the very first thing you look at when you’re browsing through online dating matches? Their hobbies? Their profession? Nope. If we’re all being honest, the first thing that we always look at is someone’s pictures. We have to know if they’re a cutie with a booty or someone who scares little children and incites panic with only a glare.

While this may seem shallow, it’s the reality of the world we live in and our nature as humans. We can get over dating someone who likes knitting or works a dirty job, but we’d be hard-pressed to be able to date someone who we weren’t attracted to. This is why no matter how “not shallow” we are, we always look at the photos first.

You probably knew that already, but here’s what you may not have realized. If you’re doing this and we’re doing this, and all of our readers are doing this, then it means that everyone who is looking at your profile is doing this too. This means that your online dating photos are your first and possibly only chance to make a good impression on a potential match.

So, are your online dating photos up to par? Well, it only takes a few minutes of poking around any dating site to see that everyone (including you) needs some help. As a professional at writing online dating site reviews, I spend hours every day on multiple sites and…how do I put this gently…you should read this post at least twice.

To help you increase your online dating success, I’ve compiled the top five mistakes that I see with online dating photos. If you’re committing one of these cardinal sins, you’re hurting your chances of finding that special someone.

 

Your Photographer Should be Fired

 

 

If your dating photos look like they were taken with a potato for a camera, you’ve got issues. The first word that pops into a new matches head should not be “blurry.” When your photos are clear, it accomplishes a few things. First, it allows matches to get a better idea of what you look like. This means they’ll be able to make a more accurate judgement of whether they are attracted to you or not. If you’re blurring your photos on purpose to hide what you look like, you’re just setting yourself up for an awkward (and probably short) first date. We’ll leave that issue for another discussion, though.

Second, clear photos instill trust. If your pictures look like they’re hiding something, your potential match is going to think that you’re hiding something too. Invest the time to take a clear photo or get the help of a professional. Hint Hint.

 

You’re Not Telling Anything About You

 

 

online dating photosOnline dating profiles might seem like they’re packed full of information at first glance, but in reality, they’re relatively short. You have to convey who you are, how you operate, and what’s important to you in a relatively short amount of space. If you aren’t using your online dating photos to do this for you,

you’re making a mistake.

Do you like rock climbing? Show people with a photo! Like being outside? Don’t make all of your pictures be of you in front of a white wall in your living room. You don’t have to go crazy with this tip, but you should be aware of it. Plenty of your pictures can be “boring” but make sure that at least a few of them show that you’re more than just a face and a white wall.

 

You’re Compromising Your Security

 

If there is one blunder on this list that baffles me (and scares me) the most, it’s this one. You need to be aware of what you are showing in your pictures as well as what is in the background. I wish I were making this next story up, but it’s true. Over the years, I’ve been an avid online dater, and this is the single story that sticks out the most.

I had to message a girl one day because she had taken a picture of herself at work in front of her computer. Harmless, right? Well, she apparently did not realize that she had left her log-in information and her password for her work files on a sticky note attached to her computer where anyone looking at her profile could see them clear as day.

You HAVE to take some time and make sure that you aren’t releasing sensitive information in your photos. Make sure you don’t have phone numbers, the address on your house, street signs that show where you live, computer passwords, your work badge/ID, or anything else that has sensitive information that you don’t want everyone on the internet to see. Nurses…you’re the biggest culprits with your hospital ID badges or your branded scrubs. If you’re trying to get creepy guys or gals to show up at your work uninvited, that’s a great first step.

 

You’re not Bringing Your A-Game

 

How much effort do you put into taking pictures when you’re selling your car? You probably spend hours getting the car cleaned, vacuumed, and into the perfect lighting for its photo shoot. How much time and effort did you spend to take your online dating photos? Just grabbed a few from Facebook? Snapped a quick selfie with your webcam?

Finding someone to spend the rest of your life with should be a lot more important than how quickly you sell your car. You should be feeling pretty silly now if you’re not bringing your A-Game to the table with your pictures. Online dating is a straightforward process. The more effort you put in, the more you should hope to get in return. If you bring your C-Game, expect mediocre results. If you bring your A-Game, you can expect to get what you’re looking for.

 

You’re Not Putting in Any Effort

 

Does this mistake seem eerily similar to the last one? That’s because it is. It’s THAT important that we’re going to hammer it home again. Not only do you need to bring your best with your photos, but you need to put in effort continually. Been a few months since you started online dating? Take the time to take some new photos. Not getting the results you want? It’s time to add some new photos.

When you don’t put in any effort, it not only won’t pique the interest of any matches, but it’s going to convey that you’re lazy and you really aren’t serious about the process. If you want people to think you’re flaky regardless of whether you are or not, disregard this tip.

 

Putting It All Together

 

Remember, online dating is supposed to be fun and not feel like a chore. That being said, doing things the right way will help to ensure you have a much better experience. It’s kind of like Halloween. It’s a night that’s supposed to be all fun and no work. However, the more work that you put into your costume before the night, the bigger splash you’re going to make and the more fun you’re going to have. There’s nothing wrong with approaching fun things with a degree of effort and seriousness.

If you’re not sure if you’re doing things the right way, I’m going to make a suggestion. Get in touch with the awesome people here at Brand You Max and let them help. If we were talking about something silly like finding a new rug for your bathroom, I would say just wing it. But we’re talking about finding someone who may have a lasting impact on the rest of your life. If that’s not worth a little bit of seriousness and some help from an expert, we have different priorities.

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I’m often asked by clients which DATING site I recommend. And this is a very specific question. It’s actually an even more tailored task than profile writing, since different sites have different categories of people from various walks of life. Fact is, unless one tried almost all the dating sites, it’s literally impossible to give a fair recommendation to a client. Luckily, just as  any product or service that has a wide variety of providers, and for which there are price comparison websites, online dating sites have as well come under review where their prices are concerned. Let’s shed a bit of light onto how much does online dating really cost in the UK.

I recently had the chance to talk with Darren Williams,  the founder of Dating Price Guide, about his and his team’s efforts that led to the founding and development of their very useful site. Just like BrandYouMax, Dating Price Guide was born from the need to get it right.

According to Darren, men are especially affected by the cost of online dating  since it typically takes them a lot longer to get dates, and in addition they are the bearers of the costs of a first date, sometimes the 2nd date as well. Thus,  putting it all together can be an expensive affair.

 

1. So Darren, how long did it take you to put the site together? Weeks, months?

Initially we only had a few pages up so the first bit of content was live within a few weeks, once I had, had enough time to get a feel for the site really.

 

2. Have you registered with all the online dating sites listed on your website, or you had friends giving you some info as well.

 

Yes, all of the dating sites we feature I have personally used. Some more than others (eg I haven’t contacted anyone from Ashley Madison or Illicit encounters) but I also have a friend who uses some of them too, so they can help contribute their view of the site also.

 

3. How did the dating sites receive your contacting them for information? 

Most of them are very open and see it as another avenue for them to reach new customers, so they are great. It’s a friendly industry so they are pretty open if I ever need any extra info

 

4. Are you committed to keep the site accurate and up to date in this changing market?

Yes of course. I speak to some sites weekly in order to keep the prices and our offers up to date. With online dating only growing in popularity it’s only going to be more important to provide the most up to date info

 

5. Have you considered reviewing dating apps?

Yes we have. I kind of wish I had picked a better name for the site as its inherently focused on price and a lot of apps don’t charge so it kind of defeats the main purpose of our site. BUT its definitely something I want to incorporate.

 

6. How much do you think you’ve saved along the months/years that you actively dated online? 

In terms of me personally, it’s hard to say but it must be nearly £1000 if I added up all the months I had used the sites and discounts I have taken advantage of. I wouldn’t like to try and work out how much we have saved our users, but I like to think I’m providing a useful service to the community by supplying up to date dating promo codes and discounts as well as the general sign up info.


7. What’s next for Datingpriceguide? Will you start reviewing dating related niche services as well, like love coaches, matchmakers and other dating experts?

Funny you should say that. I’m planning a more general ‘review’ site that will cover the whole dating market, so that will include more niche and non-traditional methods of dating other than just the sites. I think having a one stop shop that will guide you through all of the options and services would be a great help. Dating is such an uncertain thing and so having a helping hand would be great, a lot of people don’t like to admit they are actively looking for dates (although this is changing) and so wont ask for help or guidance, I’d like to be the helping hand.

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