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Nowadays, image is everything. Your online image, including your dating profile is out there to be admired, shunned or criticised. With Valentines Day over and for those of you still searching, we had a quick look at what people choose, what traits we favour in dating profiles, above all.

 

1. We Choose Beautiful

Much as they say that beauty is in the eye of the beholder, I think  we can all agree on the following points. We like to look at photos of people who are well groomed, who have a nice smile, who preferably look into the camera, don’t wear sunglasses, don’t do bathroom selfies and are preferably clothed. This really isn’t too much to ask. And yet, more often than not, our experiences are, sadly, the total opposite.

 

2. We Choose Funny

The second most sought after trait is a sense of humour. Laughing help us connect, bond and gel, till we turn serious and meaningful. Not having a sense of humour, or having the wrong sense of humour and by wrong I mean offensive, lacking taste and decency is for most of us a big no-n0

 

3. We Choose Honest

No, we don’t mean somebody who says, “honest” in their every second sentence. It’s more about a sense we get from reading what they write about themselves. We’re surrounded by so much falseness in our daily lives, finding somebody that appears to be honest (until proven otherwise) is a true aphrodisiac.

 

4. We Choose Confident

Yes, we choose confident as opposed to arrogant. We all like people who are blissfully sure of themselves and inspire confidence in others. They are a pleasure to be around. They are a magnet to others. Confidence is one of the highest sought after traits that we’d like to have. We get educated, we train, we take courses, we meditate, we become speakers, all this to gain, to strengthen and to reinforce our confidence. Confidence can win wars, and sure as hell can win hearts.

 

5. We Choose Happy

Generally we’re attracted to happy, positive people. We instinctively aim to pair up with people who have a hopeful outlook on life. We accept a quirky sense of humour, some strong beliefs – it goes to character, but a general gloom and doom can wear on us and it never goes the distance.

 

6. We Choose Self-Aware

The world is changing around us and we’re changing with it. We’ve become more self- aware, more aware of others, of the needs of the planet and our role in having those needs met. We want matches who don’t smoke, who drink moderately, who recycle, who do charity work, who, in one word, care.  And in most cases, this is a non-negotiable.

 

7. We Choose Sane

Contrary to the perception that crazy is interesting, most of us tend to prefer saner versions of humanity as matches. Maybe it’s a survival instinct, maybe we’re past that faze when we thought crazy was sexy. And sane doesn’t necessarily have to mean boring, as we run from boring. There is just too much stimuli around us to accept it. But sane, we vote for that.

How to write about ourselves and choose images that tick most boxes? It should be a collective effort, whether we ask the help of a friend or of a dating consultancy service. Self-improvement however is on us.

Need help with your dating profile? Don’t hesitate to get in touch.

And just so you don’t forget, below is short infographic created by Portia, who’s working at the fastest growing Thai dating site called Truly Thai, because no matter who we are and where we are, we all want the same basic traits in our matches:

Nowadays, image is everything. Your online image, including your dating profile is out there to be admired, shunned or criticised. With Valentines Day over and for those of you still searching, we had a quick look at what people choose, what traits we favour in dating profiles, above all.

 

 

Need help with your dating profile? Don’t hesitate to get in touch.

And just so you don’t forget, below is short infographic created by Portia, who’s working at the fastest growing Thai dating site called Truly Thai, because no matter who we are and where we are, we all want the same basic traits in our matches:

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Online dating is the new black. Ever since almost everybody is doing it, most of us are pulled into it, no questions asked. Typically, we only ask questions after our ego and feelings of self worth had a roller coaster ride at least a few times. Then, we either give up, or if we’re brave enough, we brace ourselves and ask the crucial question : how do we find the best dating site for us?

 

1. Online Dating – a Very Real Social Experiment

Online dating is one of our most practiced social experiments to date. It’s a bit like a walk in the dark. We rely on friends to guide us what site to pick, if at all. or we just go with the flow. The most advertised site, surely the most popular one should do the trick. What could go wrong? I know, because I’ve done it myself. Has it brought me the desired results? Well, almost, but not before crashing and burning (emotionally) a few times and not before getting massively turned off the entire human race, on occasions. Because it takes all kinds and with online dating being so widely spread, it seems that many of us feel that it gives us the licence to be whatever and whomever we feel like being, as there are no consequences to be had. Yes, the online dating world has a language of its own and it’s a world on its own without rules, a sort of wild west for the uninitiated. It needs a map and it needs emerging rules and regulations, but most of all it needs to make us feel safe being in it. In all this maze, we need someone who speaks our language.

 

2.How to Find the Best Site for You? – We Ask the Experts

Out of the many guidance, comparison and review sites one of the best is reviews.com, I found. Their in debt research addresses almost every issue under the sun that us, online daters are concerned with. Starting with price, complexity of setting up a profile, demographic reach, quality of interactions, accuracy of algorithms and ending with which site is best for long term relationships, it has it all. On this note, I had a chat with Lexi Watkins, from reviews.com in order to find out more about the ground work that led to such quality research.

 

 

 

a. What was the chosen criteria that you based your selection on?

Lexi: First we started by compiling every type of dating sites we could find on the internet but excluded sites that were catered specifically to targeted audiences, meant for unscrupulous relationships, based on looks alone, or that were primarily for hookups. We were really in search of dating sites that created real and long term relationships–the kind that that could lead to marriage and everything in between. Finally, we analyzed web traffic data, algorithms, and interviewed different dating experts. That’s how we came up with the top four picks!

 

 

b. How many people worked on this complex research, and how long did it take?

Lexi:  It first started with a team that dwindled the large pool down to the top four picks. Our content team is comprised of eight people and narrowed it down for our writers to focus on. Once the top four were picked, we analyzed their usability and ease, algorithms, message/interaction quality. We also included the human element–one of our writers (a straight, single woman) created a profile on all four of our top picks to see first hand the type of messages she would receive. It took us in total six weeks of research to feel like we had gotten it right!

 

 

c.How do you keep your research up to date what with the ever changing industry?

Lexi:  We make sure that we are constantly updating our articles. When we see that there are changes in the industry or to the sites, we make sure that we make note and reevaluate or even update top picks if we see necessary. There are times where we may miss something and in those cases our devoted readers will let us know if there needs to be any tweaks. We are hoping to do dating apps in the near future because this really is an ever changing and growing industry.

It’s safe to say, that whatever stage of online dating we’re at, whether just pondering about photos and a profile, or whether we’re ready to take the plunge or shift gears, thanks to sites like reviews.com we’re not alone, help is at hand. And this help,  in the form of invaluable research and insight, is something that nowadays we can’t do without. I say, dear Lexi and team, you’re doing a great job. Keep up the good work.

Check out reviews.com today to find the best site for you.

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Nowadays we’re more and more image obsessed. There is a recipe for everything, for beauty for success, for wealth, for love and our interconnected world is ready to teach us how to obtain just about everything. The first step, of course is the fantasy.  We’re sold more fantasy than we can ever handle. And that translates into our relationships as well.

Are fantasies dangerous when it comes to relationships? Or they enhance our love lives? How much is too much and where do we draw the line? is there a one size fits all, or do we all have different needs where fantasies are concerned? And what’s normal, or what’s the new normal? In my blog, as below, I’m trying to find some answers to the questions we all struggle with.  Read more here…..

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We’ve been talking to the lovely Madeleine Mason, from PASSIONSMITHS (passionsmiths.com), London’s Premier Dating and Relationship Experts, about why it is important to brand yourself in your personal life.  Here is what she wanted to know and you might want to know as well:

 

Tell me a bit about Brand You. What made you create it?

Brand You is an online image and dating consulting website. Its name originates from the desire to raise awareness of the need to stand out from the crowd for higher dating success. I created it as a response to my own online dating experience, that meant sifting through hundreds of dating profiles, that were drab, boring and repetitive and as such nearly identical in content and really poor in photo quality and choice.

 

Why is it important for people to ‘brand’ themselves?

Branding is everywhere nowadays: the more unique the product or the service, the more skilled the candidate for the job, the better the chances for success. We all aim to brand ourselves in our professional lives. Why stop there? Online dating is firstly about grabbing someone’s attention. How best to do that than to stand out with what’s unique about us.

What makes people attractive?  Read more…

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