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  Nowadays everything in life is about success, about having a successful career, living a successful life, doing your best, getting the best, and ultimately, giving your best. Now, when it comes to matters of the heart, the subject is ever more so sensitive. In the forever changing world of dating, how can you decide which way to go, to avoid heartbreak and  disappointments? Here are my 5 tips to avoid just that.   1.Get Your Ducks in the Row Make sure that you're ready to enter the battle field, especially if you haven't dated in a while. When we've just recently broken up, often times the first thing we do is to dive head first into dating, hoping that a new squeeze will help us forget the pain. Sometimes we're lucky and end up on a rebound, where we take more than we give and most likely we end up hurting someone else. But more often than not we end up making many many attempts to secure dates with many many people, attempts that typically lead nowhere. Why? Because our needy vibe is a red flag to people. Give yourself time to heal, be that 3 months, 6 months or more. Love yourself first.     2. Do Your Research Once you're ready, make sure you know which dating site is right for you. Whilst friends and acquaintances can recommend some, based on their experience, you're better off reading up on all that's important. Consumer review sites like ConsumersAdvocate.org are very helpful in this respect. Here I have a chat with Giancarlos Merced about the best dating sites and their specifics:   a. GIANCARLOS, WHAT WAS THE CHOSEN CRITERIA THAT YOU BASED YOUR SELECTION ON? Before we began our research, we decided on three factors that would help us determine what were the best sites for online dating: Match-making software, Features, and Memberships. For Match-making software, we looked beyond personality tests and instead studied their site algorithms that would quantify the sustainability of certain pairings based on comprehensive questionnaires. For features, we took into consideration sites that had fun experiences like virtual games and real-life meet-ups. Having a mobile version was also an important element along with premium options to enhance profiles and increase the chances of improved matchmaking. Finally, even though a lot of these sites had membership options, we gave more weight to sites that lowered your monthly fee the longer you used their service; i.e. one month subscription would set users back $40 per month but three month subscriptions would start at $25 per month.   b. HOW MANY PEOPLE WORKED ON THIS COMPLEX RESEARCH, AND HOW LONG DID IT TAKE? There were a total of five staff members assigned to this complex research. The team was composed of editors, and writers that had a keen interest in finding out the complexities of how online dating sites actually worked. We used more than twenty sources, vetted eleven companies, which took a total of more than two hundred hours of research to complete.   c. HOW DO YOU KEEP YOUR RESEARCH UP TO DATE WHAT WITH THE EVER CHANGING INDUSTRY? To keep our research with the most up to date information in the industry, our team assigns members to revisit our selected websites and verify if anything about their features or language had changed. We do this on a constant basis, or even seasonally, too. We also look up main keywords associated with our selected sites to check for relevant trending topics that our readers might find interesting to know about.   Giancarlos and his team from ConsumerAdvocate.org are doing a wonderful job so that we're not left to our own devices in the confusing world of online dating, but have a clear picture of what's available and what our options are.     3. Be as Honest as Possible in Your Profile Lying about your age and using outdated photos is counterproductive but it happens all the time, with both men and women. Use a combination of great and less than great recent photos, to show the real you. Photos are always deceiving, whether they show you at your best or worst. A combination of both can make the general picture more real. Regarding your age, a tiny bit of fibbing is all right. For example, if you just turned 40 and you put yourself down as 39 and 1/2 in order to fall into a certain category, that's more than acceptable.     4. Be Clear About Your Values The first thing we encounter when we start exchanging messages with a potential date is the sporadic and often unreliable pattern of communication. This should be a red flag from the get go. If dating is not high on their priority list, or meeting and knowing you does not seem to be a priority and they often quote work and personal life issues ( parents visiting, sister being ill, etc.) as their excuse then you're no more than an occasional pastime. Don't play along. Life is short and there are plenty of fish in the sea.     5. Don't Jump to Conclusions It's often the butterflies in the stomach that override any other feeling or clear judgement that can lead to our greatest disappointment.  Keep in mind that a date is just a date, it's not yet a relationship and it won't be for a good while or maybe never. Don't call your date your boyfriend or girlfriend straight away and don't talk about wanting kids on the first date, even if you feel an undeniable connection. Give things time. All in all, date on your own terms. Value yourself, value your time, your own being, be careful with early compromises and never forget to love and respect yourself first. Good luck.  ...

Nowadays we’re more and more image obsessed. There is a recipe for everything, for beauty for success, for wealth, for love and our interconnected world is ready to teach us how to obtain just about everything. The first step, of course is the fantasy.  We’re sold more fantasy than we can ever handle. And that translates into our relationships as well. Are fantasies dangerous when it comes to relationships? Or they enhance our love lives? How much is too much and where do we draw the line? is there a one size fits all, or do we all have different needs where fantasies are concerned? And what’s normal, or what’s the new normal? In my blog, as below, I’m trying to find some answers to the questions we all struggle with.  Read more here….....

It was the summer of 2002 when a friend of mine introduced me to Lavalife, a Canadian dating website. Thus my journey into the world of online dating began. It did stop shortly after though, as I started dating someone I had met at one of the workshops I was attending at the time. Needless to say, in 2002 dating sites weren’t widely discussed, they were more of a hush hush kinda subject. We’ve come a long way since. So, what is the success rate of online dating these days?   1.The Success Rate of Online Dating via Traditional Dating Sites Whether it’s Match.com, Lovestruck or E-Harmony, OKCupid, or PlentyOfFish, traditional dating sites have one thing in common, a huge database. Thus they can make us believe that we have “infinite” matches. But when taking a closer look, we realize that maybe on the surface, we have a lot in common with a lot of people, however, since we’re not putting together a football team, the weeding process can be long and painful. We’re bound to communicate with loads of people, go on many dates and start all over again. However, whether due to luck or hard work, an increasing number of people find their partner on these sites. All hope is not lost.   2.The Success Rate of Online Dating via Niche Dating Sites Niche dating sites are very much in. Some are independent, like Star Trek Dating, others are branches of traditional sites, like LavalifePrime (for the over 45 year old). They are a brilliant idea of grouping people based on main interests, orientation and preferences. Suddenly the pool is much smaller. Yet, the chances of finding somebody you match with are much greater.   3.The Success Rate of Online Dating via Dating Apps Dating apps are all the rage nowadays and as far as going on dates goes, they’re probably leading. Predominantly free, these apps do have their drawbacks, though. It has been recently reported that 42% of men on Tinder are already in a relationship. New dating app Hinge, thus decided on a bold move. They publish all users relationship status. Since Hinge is linked to the user’s Facebook profile, whatever status they show on there will appear on the new version of Hinge. Apparently on hearing the news, over 400 men deleted their profiles. [caption id="attachment_458" align="alignnone" ] Online Dating - Red Billboard on Sky Background. Business Concept.[/caption]   Dating apps are no stranger to going niche either. There is one for men who have beards and those who like to stroke them. There is one for “cheeky” people, called Cheeky Boo. Well, not for actually cheeky ones as such. It’s a clever app that can set up people on a date in an instant if they’re both free. The choices are endless. The commitment of the people using these apps, less so.   4.The Success Rate of Online Dating via Social Media Since connecting with friends of friends not only gives people access to some accurate background information, thus elevating trust, but also guarantees some sort of common interests as well, dating social media connections seems like a good idea. No wonder the dating app Hinge built it’s whole concept on these connections. Although these circles are much smaller than the selection of potential matches offered by a traditional dating site, in some ways it’s like being back at school. It’s just virtual.   5.The Success Rate of Online Dating via Social Events Secret singles nights or Thames River Cruises, these events are for the socially bold. However, they do work. Kudos to dating sites bringing in the trend, which now has been taken over by Meetup as well. Just try not to bump into an ex. It could be awkward.   6. What Else Is Out There to Help Our Quest For Love? Matchmakers. Yes, for all of you who’d like to have the load taken off your shoulders, there are some fantastic services run by talented and dedicated people. Matchmaking is an art and requires the finest intuition and skill. It also requires knowledge. One of the best matchmakers in town is Caroline Brealey of Mutual Attraction.  And, just as there is an ever growing need for long lasting relationships, there is a need for more good matchmakers as well. That’s why, it should not come as a surprise that Caroline, after writing her book “Matchmaking – Create Your Own Business” is now running a special course called The Matchmaker Academy. With such wonderful services, rest assured our love life is in good hands. Now it’s up to us to contribute our share, with dedication and keeping an open mind. Life and love are an intriguing journey here on Earth. If you’d like to read more of our articles or need help with your dating profiles, click here....